Palette: Fortune cookie Tuesday

September 14th, 2011

Tuesday, I wore a sleeveless black wool shift dress with a vivid pashmina-style shawl for my WGBH interview and a series of meetings and coffee dates. This fortune-cookie necklace is one I picked up at a Macy’s clearance table in Kansas City for $5 some 20 years ago. I get compliments on it every time I wear it. There used to be a little metal fortune inside that said, “A thing not looked for is seldom found.” That’s silly. Do you think I went into that Macy’s looking for a fortune-cookie necklace?

Shift dress: Eileen Fisher, eBay
Shawl: Gift
Necklace: Macy’s
Bracelets: various

Little Spa of Horrors does it again

September 14th, 2011

I’ve written before about how my gym — my wonderful, body-accepting, diverse, empowering women’s only gym — has a tendency to show inappropriate movies, like “Life is Beautiful” or “127 Hours.”

They outdid themselves this morning with a 1997 made-for-television movie called “… First Do No Harm,” starring Meryl Streep as the mother of a boy with severe epilepsy who is being failed by the medical establishment, as incarnated in Allison Janney. Meryl rages, Meryl begs for the experimental drugs, Allison deep-freezes, Meryl’s boy screams and convulses and goes into iatrogenic fits of rage and punches his father in the mouth. When the boy’s violence and the doctor’s remoteness hit a simultaneous peak, she can’t be reached to authorize a sedative while he goes on a self- and other-harming binge through the pediatric ward. A nurse (played by an African-American actress who clearly specializes in wrangling hysterical white people) has to put the boy in a cage while he shrieks and cries, “Mommy! Take me out of here!” and Meryl suffers.

And this was after the scene where Meryl and her weathered but handsome working-class husband had to explain to the two older and non-neurologically-compromised children why the bank just called and what “foreclosure” means.

When the nurse was caging the screaming child and firmly ordering Meryl to leave him and go home, the woman on the elliptical next to me started slowing down. I took my earbuds out and nodded to the screen and said, “This is awful!” She took her earbuds out and said, in a shaking voice, “My son just started school this year. I hate dropping him off.”

I handed her a fashion magazine and suggested she look at that instead. Maybe they’re designed to make you hate your body, but that’s got to be better than seeing your worst maternal nightmares dramatized by the most intense actresses of your generation, right?

Palette: High-contrast Monday

September 13th, 2011

I dress as much to get myself in the proper frame of mind as I do to shape other people’s impressions of me. Monday morning, I wanted to bust out of the gate and get a whole lot of things done. Bold colors and contrasts made me feel assertive. This is not an outfit easily ignored.


Yellow corduroy skirt: Anthropologie, eBay
Black & white striped long-sleeve tee: Old Navy
Patent-leather belt: Ann Taylor
Cubic zirconia bangles: eBay
Crystal studs: gift
Pearls: various

Palette: Bad-girl blues

September 12th, 2011

Rocking a motorcycle vibe for a cocktail party on Sunday night, in a snug-fitting graphic tee with zippers on the collar and sleeve, jeans, sturdy pewter wedge sandals, and purple toenail polish and lipstick.

Graphic tee: Custo, thrifted
Jeans: Marc Jacobs, thrifted
Bracelet: J Crew, eBay

The recipe that will make my name

September 12th, 2011

Check this out:

It’s a screencap from Boston.com last night. I came up with my “Easy Greek Casserole” recipe nearly four years ago, and every now and then, it shoots back into prominence. I’m glad it did: it’s a terrific recipe to add to your repertoire now that fall is here.

For those of you who haven’t tried it yet, here is Miss Conduct’s Famous Easy Greek Casserole:

I make this in an 8X8 pan, and it’s enough for two lunches for two, or dinner and maybe one serving left over, so expand accordingly if you’re cooking for more people. Absolutely none of the amounts are exact, because that’s just not how I roll.

1-1.5 cups cooked brown rice or other whole grain (quinoa is good)
1 T olive oil
1 small onion
1 bulb garlic, chopped, or one tablespoon minced garlic from a jar
1 bag baby spinach
herbs
1 pint grape tomatoes, sliced in half, or one can diced tomatoes
1/4 to 1/2 cup crumbled feta cheese
1/2 block firm tofu, drained & pressed
sliced black olives (optional)

Cook rice or other grain. Preheat oven to 375. Heat olive oil in skillet and add onion and garlic. Wash the spinach and squeeze dry. When the onion has become limp and tractable, add the spinach and whatever herbs you like (I use dill, oregano, basil, black pepper; there’s enough salt in the feta so’s you don’t need any of that). While that cooks, spray the pan with non-stick spray (it’s okay if you forget, which I do about half the time) and spread the rice or other grain evenly across the bottom. When the spinach mixture is just barely cooked, put that on top. Put the tomatoes on top of that, cover in foil, and bake for about 20 minutes.

Squeeze the tofu between your fingers and into a bowl. Add feta cheese. Mix together until it’s all just crumbly white stuff. Remove the casserole and add the feta cheese & tofu topping. Add sliced olives on top, and bake uncovered until topping browns, about 15 more minutes.

So tasty, and so nutritious! Also so sloppy. If you like your casserole servings to have neat edges and structural integrity, add a beaten egg or two somewhere, probably in the spinach.

This is good with steamed broccoli with some Cavender’s Greek Seasoning on top.

And a bonus one-pot dinner I came up with last week. Behold, Miss Conduct’s Vaguely African Stew:

1 cup brown rice or other grain (I used a Trader Joe’s grain mix)
1 16-oz can crushed pineapple
4-5 large carrots, peeled & diced
1/2 cup Trader Joe’s Thai Lime & Chili Cashews

Squeeze out as much of the juice as possible from the pineapple, and use that to cook the grain in. Peel and dice carrots while grain is cooking. Add carrots and cashews to pot shortly before grain is done cooking, and mix in the rest of the pineapple afterward.

I added some red pepper flakes to this as well, since we like the spicy. This isn’t quite right for dinner (too heavy for a side dish, not heavy enough for an entree) but it’s a great brown-bag option, as it’s tasty, nutritious, and not too sloppy to eat in front of a computer.

Palette: Somber celebration

September 12th, 2011

Saturday I attended a memorial service that was very much a celebration of the man’s long, accomplished, and joyful life. This palette reflects light, as did our friend, but is subdued enough to be respectful.

Beige raw silk jacket: Looks Boutique
Textured tank: Chicos, eBay
Green satin skirt: Looks Boutique
Necklace: Talbots
Bracelet: Victoria Tane

9/11

September 11th, 2011

Ten years ago today I came home from work early. Stunned. My boyfriend and I had only been living together for a few weeks. It was very much a “let’s see how this goes” sort of thing.

We called our parents. Then we made tea, and sat down, and tried to think of anyone we knew who might be alone and not wanting to be, so that we could open our home to them. This was his first instinct, as it was mine.

I had a fairly good idea after that how things might go.

Today’s column

September 11th, 2011

… is online here.

Palette: Back to school pinks

September 9th, 2011

I’ve decided to resume style blogging with the new school year. Today’s outfit (for errands in Harvard Square and a meeting with my HBS boss) featured grey and pink:

Dark grey jersey maxi skirt: Old Navy
Dark grey open cardigan: Old Navy
Rose tank top: Chico’s, eBay
Pleated reversible rose scarf: Boutique in DC train station
Smoky quartz earrings: Ditto
Pearl & grosgrain-wrapped chain necklace: Talbot’s

Chat today

September 7th, 2011

I’ll be chatting today from noon-1pm EST here. Come on by!

No column today — special feature instead!

September 4th, 2011

No magazine this weekend, because of the holiday. I hope you’re having a pleasant and safe weekend. In the meantime, Gandhi and the Queen have a new awkward situation to solve!

Portrait of a sad dog

September 1st, 2011

Mr. Improbable left of a business trip last night. Milo was not happy.

Holmesian musings

August 31st, 2011

I’ve got a contest up on the “Miss Conduct” blog to win tickets to “The Hound of the Baskervilles” at Central Square Theater. If you’re a local reader, enter! It’s a great show.

I thought I’d open up a thread here for general musings from Sherlock Holmes fans. When did you first get introduced to the stories? Who is your favorite portrayer of Holmes? What do you think of revisionist efforts like the Laurie King mysteries or the various television/cinematic reboots?

I started reading the stories in ninth grade, and of course promptly fell in love with Sherlock Holmes. (While my peers lusted after Shaun Cassidy and Scott Baio, I dreamed of Sherlock, Cyrano, and Spock. Geeky, but my crushes aged better.) The first movie or TV version I ever saw was the great Jeremy Brett “Mystery” series — the Basil Rathbone movies that showed on Saturday afternoons never grabbed me. They seemed too normal, whereas the compelling power of the stories, for me, was in how deeply weird Sherlock Holmes was, and what a very strange position he occupied in his rigidly stratified culture. He fit in everywhere, and nowhere. John Watson could function wonderfully in polite society, among medical men, and in the military, but only Sherlock could move among palaces and opium dens alike.

Speaking of Watson, I’m neutral on the extent of the bromance. I’ve seen good interpretations across the Kinsey scale. (The Watson of CST’s “Hound,” in a novel and hilarious twist, simply has huge crushes on everyone. He’s a very enthusiastic fellow.) What I am adamant about, and my main gripe with Laurie King’s books, is that Watson is not stupid. He’s not as smart as Holmes, but almost no one is. Watson is a highly competent doctor, soldier, and writer — imagine if the New Yorker‘s Atul Gawande also had several years of distinguished service in Afghanistan on his resume. Watson isn’t a bumbling dolt, he’s someone the likes of you or I would be downright intimidated by at a cocktail party.

Unsurprisingly, given what I like about the stories, I’m a fan of the Robert Downey Jr./Jude Law pairing. They have wonderful chemistry, which Holmes and Watson have to have whether there is a sexual element to it or not. Jude Law’s Watson is exactly what he should be — a man who is clearly action-hero material on his own, not one of nature’s born sidekicks. I like how Robert Downey Jr. suggested that Holmes’s primary pathology isn’t some kind of autism (the Jeremy Brett interpretation) but more a desperate, addictive hunger for stimulation, mental and physical. The world is not too much with Holmes; it is not enough with him, and he must grab it and dig in his hands and drag it into his web of understanding, into his very bloodstream.

What’s your take on Holmes, and Watson?

Today’s column

August 28th, 2011

… is online here. I really enjoyed the first question.

Because someone had to

August 25th, 2011

From 9gag.